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Have you ever wondered “what’s the use in trying to write a separate message for every woman I want to meet? Isn’t it just easier to copy and paste the same email to everyone?”
Many people give online dating tips advising against this, and in truth, cutting and pasting is risky business.
But if you carefully craft a killer message and tweak it just a little each time, you can:
- Contact a ton of women
- Have them all think that you wrote a very personal message, and
- Save yourself a lot of time and energy.
Top mistakes men make when writing messages:
1.) They make them too short. Do not copy and paste “hey cutie” to 139 women.
2.) They don’t read the profile. I made a fake profile of a woman once. Of the 78 emails I got in the first 24 hours, only 3 showed made any reference to the woman’s profile in the message.
3.) Do not use acronyms like NSA and FWB. There’s no shame in wanting this, but try not to be so sexually explicit — at least not in the first email.
Almost every women (or man, for that reason) would like a personal message. But online dating is competitive. By the the time you’re finished writing it, five other guys have written to her!
You need to have a very smartly written message template. You may not get it right the first time. But if template is good, it will appear to the woman as if the entire thing was original.
Online dating tips when creating your template:
1.) Make your message about 150 words. This is longer that the average message so you will stand out more. (A message that is more than 200 words comes of as needy, though).
2.) Include a sentence that’s funny.
3.) Include a sentence that says a little bit about you. Even though you already talked about yourself in your profile, do it anyway. When she reads it in the context of the rest of your message, she’ll think about why she’s right for you.
4.) Make it intriguing and vague. Leave things up to her imagination.
5.) Include a “call to action.” Give just a quick, generic “We should grab coffee or a beer sometime.” Don’t wait until the second or third message to do this— in fact, you’ll be surprised at how many women will say yes on the first message.
6.) All you need is one sentence that says something about her somewhere in the message. If what you say about her is authentic, and you are working from a good template, your entire message will seem completely original.
“But I don’t feel comfortable cutting and pasting.”
That’s fine. Just retype a similar message each time. The key is to know what to say so that you can get messages out rapidly– and the fact is, the only thing you really need to change in each message is the sentence about her. The rest is you demonstrating something about yourself and why you think you two would get along.
As another online dating tip, test your message and keep track of your response rate. Use trial and error to evaluate the effectiveness of your message until you arrive on one that’s good. Keep a log if necessary.
Or, if you don’t want to waste a lot of time, check out http://www.seduceheronline.com for a good template to start from (and tons more great online dating tips). These templates are time tested and will blow you away at their effectiveness. I quadrupled the number of women writing back to me and cut my work in half.
This has been Elliott Gordon of Authentic Online Dating Tips For Men. Subscribe to my newsletter to get more online dating tips on how to meet women, plus a free video.